Okay, I broke down and posted. I've lurked forever and have always been able to find any fixes I needed, but now I'm darn well stumped. If it turns out to be something easy, I'm gonna be really irritated with myself...(but happy that it's fixed, so there's that)
Anyway, I'm playing the Enhanced Edition and I have tons of romance mods installed (but not the multiromancing mods) and the banter pack, flirt pack and cross-mod. I'm pretty sure my problem is that Anomen is stuck on a dialogue that has to do with the flirt pack or something that is conflicting with it. The reason I suspect the flirt pack is that he never gets borked until after he sleeps with the PC (pun not intended, but I'm okay with it). After they wake up, he gives the morning-after speech, but continues to act like he wants to converse and won't move unless it's a couple of steps. The only differences I can find (in EEKeeper) is the added variable for the first night and his romance progression variable. Specifically, fwanomennookie = 1 appears (real subtle variable there, btw, lol) and the Anomen Romance variable changes from 1531986 to 1578809.
I've researched here and other places and tried various fixes (including uninstalling and then re-installing the flirt pack, editing variables in EEKeeper to progress dialogues, deleting variables in EEKeeper, removing him from the party, resting again, etc.) but I can't get him past whatever script is holding him. Keep in mind, I'm only tech savvy enough to really screw up something, so I don't know how to check what all is going on in the game mechanics or even how to figure that out...otherwise, I'd probably have it fixed by now...or be romancing an Anomen that looked like Minsc, used Aerie's dialogues and changed into the slayer.
I am not using "Big World Setup" as, frankly, it seemed like a lot of complicated work and I wasn't sure it would have all the mods I wanted. So, I installed the mods manually. And though I'm not sure how or if it matters, I did find a list of install order and installed them in that order.
I know a lot of people hate Anomen, but he has always been my favorite BG romance, especially after the flirt pack (though Aran by cmorgan came close to replacing him and Aeryn's Haer'Dalis is very close behind). I decided to make an EE run of concurrent games with the romance mods for females and the only screwed game is, of course, my favorite. *sigh* SO, after much searching and trial and error, I signed up and signed on to see if someone here might be willing to take some time and try to help me figure out what's going on. Thanks for reading.