Sorrow, you placed an overly high value on your friend's looks. She isn't to blame for that. Why on earth was it so important that she be pretty all the time? That's impossible. Just as no-one can be pleasant all the time, or patient, or any other characteristic. The discovery that your friend wore make-up sounds like an excuse for breaking up the friendship. What's with this "one mistake and it's over" thing? Setting impossible standards is a great strategy if you want to avoid intimacy, but you can't then lay the blame on others for the failure of the relationship.
I'm not setting impossible standards.
My best friend happens to have dyed hair and seems to like piercing, but he is an interesting person.
And I didn't even hate make-up when I broken up friendship, because I wasn't thinking about any philosophy behind the way I look and other people look.
I just say that looks are strongly connected with personal charm and that good looks can help make friends but aren't a good base to start a friendship, especially if they are artificial.
If friendship is based on personal charm, or glamour as some people would say, it's better if it's genuine.
As for that girl's looks...
I knew that she wore make up and I have seen her without make-up before, and as I said I was more disappointed with her hair - to me hair are very important part of persons look (that's why I hate cutting my hair - hairdressers always cut them too short
. Last time I cut my hair, I hated everyone and everything [especially mirrors] for about month
) because they can make person look unique and charming and can drasticaly alter how the person is perceived by other people (That's why I tend to dislike bald people.).
As I said, when I met her first time, she had beatiful honey-blonde hair that looked a bit like an aureole, and I think that they gave her certain charisma.
When I met her last time, she had ugly, matt hair of indeterminate colour.
When she lost her glamour she became an uninteresting, rather shallow girl.
If there's a moral in this story it would rather be: "If you aren't really beautiful, better spend some money on good books and become an interesting person instead of spending money on buying friends meals in restaurants."
Despising women for wearing make-up has been around ever since women started wearing it. At first, women who wore it were tagged "bad" - attracting attention and enhancing their sexuality. "Good" women were not supposed to wear it. As more and more women wore it, they were criticised for "unnaturalness". Truly beautiful women didn't need to wear make-up, and a woman who wore it was deceiving and false. As women continued to wear make-up, capitalism realised that loads of money could be made out of it, and then wearing make-up became de riguer. It was every woman's duty to wear make-up, and enhance her personal looks. Women who rejected wearing make-up then became "bad." They were frumps and feminists.
I'm not despising women for wearing make-up, I just despise make-up and people who direct the mass brain washing.
My despise for make-up has several reasons, aesthetical, financial and ideological.
Err...
Who are frumps?
Anyway, as I said I'm in this world not to blindly follow, but to create new way.
If people dislike it, it's their problem.
Problem with fashion and social norms is that usually they are created by people who I regard as vermin.
There's no place for compromise or surrender.
Personally I dislike wearing make-up, jevelry, restrictive clotches etc.
And I really, really hate high-heeled boots, because they are unhealthy and it's hard to run, jump etc. in them.
Taking in account how dangerous are streets, depriving oneself from mobility is a bad idea.
The moral of this story is, if you keep on criticising your friend for choosing to wear make-up
Err...
Which friend?
As women continued to wear make-up, capitalism realised that loads of money could be made out of it, and then wearing make-up became de riguer. It was every woman's duty to wear make-up, and enhance her personal looks. Women who rejected wearing make-up then became "bad." They were frumps and feminists.
The moral of this story is, if you keep on criticising your friend for choosing to wear make-up -because she likes it, because she wants to cover up "flaws" in her features, or whatever- a big bunch of angry feminists are going to come around and harangue you mercilessly on the topic of the right of women to freely make choices about their appearance, without having to get your permission.
Maybe.
From the other side I don't complain when a girl/woman tells me that I look better with a bit shorter hair/beard, so I see nothing wrong in telling girl that she looks better without make-up.
Of course it's completely pointless, because a)they are brainwashed and think that wearing make-up is their duty, b)they really think that their very unprofessional make-up looks good, c)people learn norms that are hard to destroy without experiences that prove that the norm may be incorrect.
I like wearing black clothes. Come to think of it most of my clothes are black. I guess that means I am either fond of the clergy or I like looking goth, devilish, morbid.
I like wearing black clotches too
.
Black clotches are very aesthetic, even if they are very simple.
Black is deep and fascinating
.
It's hard to find not-black clothes that are really aesthetic.
I usually wear black t-shirt, black tracksuit trouser and sometimes black sweater
.
Lord Vetinari wears black
.
Black also makes me look slimmer, but I don't think it's a positive thing.
Some of my T-shirts are red, but I don't like them anymore.