If everyone is responsible for their own behaviour Soz, then you are responsible for your feelings towards drunks, not them. Fair enough, avoid drunks who are dangerous. But why foster supercharged negative feelings about harmless ones? People do stupid unattractive things: they're called mistakes.
Yeah.
I guess it's time to do something with my feeling - avoidance is beneficial, but hatred brings only suffering.
Since suffering is wrong, hatred is unadvised unless something needs to be kicked.
Mistakes aren't the problem.
The problem is that mistakes are repeated and glorified by the culture.
The trouble with having rigid standards is you do expect others to agree with them, and you judge them harshly when they don't. Then your tolerance muscles start to atrophy and you end up bitter and lonely and a gigantic pain in the arse.
I wouldn't call my standards rigid. I'm not losing anything because of not-drinking. That's why I'm not drinking.
As for tolerance...
I think that I must work on it a bit, because intolerance decreases the quality of my life.
I commend you on your decision to not drink. However, I find your harsh [judgmental] comments and intolerance very off-putting. People do stupid things all the time, regardless of whether there's alcohol involved or not. Just because you had a negative experience, it doesn't mean that all the drunks are reckless daredevils endangering everyone around them.
You claim you never said you were good, kind or perfect, but your attitude and your earlier remarks suggest otherwise.
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Those dangerous situations involving my drunk friends weren't dangerous because they were agressive or doing dangerous things, because I tend to avoid people who tend to have really stupid ideas, but because they were unable to act effectively in situations that require alertness, cohesive thinking and movement coordination.
I don't like when people actively decrease their value as companions and allies, so I don't like when my friends drink in my company, nor I would take a drinking girl as a life partner.
What does "Emo boy" mean?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=emo&page=2 Definition 14 sounds about right.
Nope.
I'm not a nerd and I'm not listening to emocore music and I'm not depressed and angsty most of time.
I'm closer to being goth, but I'm not goth, because I don't wear make-up, nor I listen to goth music.
I would call myself a metalhead if metalheads weren't infamous for drinking and taking drugs.
I'm creating my own way, and I temporary feel alienated, because it's my own way based on my own experiences and observations and I'm alone on it.