Good news! I got it to work finally. I'll attempt to recount what happened.
1. Tried resting, travelling to far locations and letting the game sit for long periods (20-30min) at a time. Evilyn, I don't follow why you would pause the game though, as no time would pass in game, so I didn't pause. this didn't do anything. I started this at like 90 days of game time, right at the beginning of Suldanessalar(sp.), and went all the way to like 140 days.
2. Next I figured since using the CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1")
commands hadnt worked, I'd try forcing the Jaheira variable to love instead of just like e.g. CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraRomanceActive","GLOBAL",XX). Additionally, I set Aerie's to 3 to turn it off - I wondered if there was a conflict in there with the both of them still being on. after reading about multi-romances not working, this may have something to do with it.
3. Then I used CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1") to force the next talk. Guess what! nothing!
4. I noticed you could just force the LT number with the CLUAConsole:SetGlobal(“LoveTalk”,”LOCALS”,X) technique. I was at 56, so I set it to 58. CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1"), rest, wait a minute, nothing. I rechecked the value and saw that it had progressed to 59 for some reason, which according to Cybersquirt's guide was not a valid numer. So i reset it back to 57. CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1"), rest, wait a minute, and VOILA!! number 58 kicks in. Praise be to Jesus!!
The way it seems to work is that with most of them, you enter the CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1"), rest, and then let the game sit for a couple of minutes, maybe 1-2. I spent it reading over the guide. Then it will kick in the next lovetalk. If it doesn't, then use the CLUAConsole:SetGlobal(“LoveTalk”,”LOCALS”,X) method to set it to LT-1, then CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("JaheiraROMANCE","GLOBAL","1"), rest, and then it needs a minute to catch up. The ones in Cybersquirt's guide listed as rest kick in right away.
I attempted to get Elminster to show up CLUAConsole:SetGlobal("TERMINSELAPPEAR","GLOBAL","0"), but that did not pan out. tried it several time, also used "1" for shits and giggles, and traveled/rested until I got another 10 days of game time, but the big man didn't come out to play. I figure I'm happy enough as it is with the J romance where I wanted it, and now I can continue on to finish SOA and conquer TOB as intended.
I'd like to give many thanks to Cybersquirt for the EXCELLENT guide, if you are out there, thank you!